A few years ago, I found myself in the unfortunate position of having to write a letter directed to the village towards the willful desecration of my father's gravesite.
As you may remember, I brought my young son at his request to see his grandfather's grave, only to discover that some backhoe operator had decided to use his grave as a shortcut, leaving tire tread marks, digging up the dirt, and leaving actual rubber-tire tread marks across his headstone.
The official response received indicated their displeasure towards my letter in the paper and that they wished I had informed them directly, but that they were sorry about it and would fix it.
Since that time, my son has asked, but I have not been able to go back to visit my father. Truth be told, I was scared. I was scared because I didn't know how I would react if the village's word was not kept.
The last time, I grew depressed and hurt. I cried for my father and my son.
I find I'm not yet over it, as for years now, despite my son's requests, I have not been able to visit my father.
Well, last Sunday (June 27) my eldest brother came to town. The last time was for Dad's funeral.
I really wished that the gravesite would be nice. Let's just say, if before there was a tire trail, now there is a whole road, complete with big sunken road groove wear marks where there once was a grave.
Not only has the village not kept its word, but it has continually used his gravesite for its road to the dirt piles for years now.
The disrespect is astounding. The worst of all is that if they just drove another 50 feet, they could go around all of the graves instead of driving over my father's. They continue even when they know they have negatively hurt children and families before.
Could you imagine if it was your father, husband, mother or child?
I haven't been able to deal with this well. No food or sleep can comfort the pain. I know one thing for sure. I will never go into that graveyard again. Nor will my son or I be buried there. No apology, admission of guilt, or request for forgiveness will help or be accepted.
My question is, who keeps doing it? How many principal operators are allowed inside the grounds? Why has management allowed this to continue?
What I learned is that as an individual, you can complain all you want and raise a big stink but they don't care and will just keep doing it, anyway.
So my wish is that if anyone cares, please phone the village and ask them to explain why, as we all deserve an answer.
Also, if anyone knows a good civil lawyer or civil law, please get in touch with me. Your support would be greatly appreciated.
Daniel (and Dylan) Boersma