We all dream of the perfect relationship. The one that is free of disagreement, conflict, communication difficulties, power battles, anger and control. When we wake up from our dreams, we all are greeted by the reality that all of our relationships live in the same neighborhood - an imperfect world - and all of our relationships are with the same kind of person - an imperfect human being.
Why then God would choose to subject us to such difficulties and disappointments. Is there meaning in the mess? Is there mercy in the mess? Maybe right now you are dealing with such deep hurt that you simply don't know what to do. You could even be doubtingGod's goodness and question his love
Know this from the Bible:
God never gets a wrong location. The book of Acts tells us that God determines the exact place where we will live and the exact length of our lives. What we are facing is not the result of God forgetting us. God hasn't turned his back on the promises he made to us. What we are facing is the result of God being faithful to his promises to us.God is always in the middle of the mess with us. "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble." If we are God's children, we have never been all by ourselves; we have never been in a relationship all by ourselves; we have never endured difficulty in isolation. Why? Because God is always with us and he is our refuge and strength when all seems hopeless.
God is always up to something good in the mess. Here's the mistake we make in the way we attempt to make sense out of our lives. We think that the mess is a sure sign that God is not working in our lives, that he has abandoned us, because if he were with us, we wouldn't be in such a mess.
The Bible tells us something completely different. It tells us that because God loves us, he is not satisfied with us as we are. He couldn't love us and be willing to leave us in our immaturity and weakness. So, God takes us where we do not want to go in order to create in us what we could not achieve on our own - character.
He uses the difficult experiences of life to expose and change our hearts. One of his main tools is our relationships. These messy relationships expose our hearts, bring us to the end of ourselves and cause us to reach out for the help that only Jesus can give us.I know it is hard to face the hurt and disappointment of a relationship gone wrong. But there is hope. We are never alone. Christ who is with you is up to something very good and there really is mercy to be found squarely in the middle of the mess!